Referencing Your Hair Kindly

By Erma W.

In all aspects of life, we encounter highs and lows.  We may not be able to change the occurrence of the lows, but we can employ methods to counteract their frequency and intensity. One such method is to reference our hair lovingly instead of unkindly.  Debra Hare-Bey, owner and creative director of the OMHH Store and Red Room Luxe Salon, once said that if hair had ears and was able to hear some of the things we say about it, it would go away.  I certainly agree.

Regarding this matter, I must first address myself before talking about anyone else.  I constantly complain about how fine my hair is, how difficult it is for me to achieve big hair, and how my hair is weighed down easily. Complaining about these factors isn’t going to improve the situation.  In fact, it might make matters worse.  Research from the Centre for Clinical Interventions suggests that our thoughts and beliefs influence our emotions and actions.  If we are thinking and talking unfavorably about our hair, we may be treating our hair terribly as well.  

The worst part is that the negative words travel throughout generations.  Far too often, I read and hear stories from women who have a bad perception of their hair because they were told that their hair was too nappy or too dry or too coarse.  Just imagine how those same women would currently feel if they were told their hair was so beautiful and so full and so versatile.  One of the greatest falsehoods ever told rests in the adage, “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.”  Words are powerful.  They carry deep meanings.  Let’s choose our words more carefully.  Our hair and hearts will surely thank us.

Here’s to showering our hair with daily expressions of love!

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